I had
big plans to be a dutiful writer this month, to write daily, to be focused and
diligent. It hasn't happened. It probably will going forward, but for the past
few days I've been distracted, by love. I didn't plan it. I certainly wasn't
expecting it, but somehow this weekend, I was bowled over by love.
Like most love stories, it started with a road trip to Pittsburgh. On Thursday
I hit the road in a rented VW Jetta with my boss playing both navigator and DJ.
We rested in Jonestown, and after a delicious hotel waffle, we continued our
journey to the town of my father's birth.
I had no idea what to expect of the weekend. I had a basic idea of the
itinerary and the plan, and what we were there for, an Episcopal Revival in
Pittsburgh. I had double-checked that neither tents nor snake handling would be
part of the proceedings, but was really not sure what to expect. I certainly
was not prepared for love.
But somehow, love overcame me. Maybe it was the leaders of many of Pittsburgh's
denominations coming together to pray and sing together. Maybe it was the tears
that flowed as my new friend Carrie prayed for me, the same way my Nanny used
to, asking for healing and wisdom. Maybe it was watching as our Presiding
Bishop brought tears of laughter to faith leaders from all walks of life,
uniting them in joy and shared humanity. For three days, the people of
Pittsburgh opened their hearts to us and in so doing, broke mine wide open. I
don't know exactly how or when it happened, but suddenly, love is everywhere. It
is lighting up the dark corners and I don't quite know what to do with myself.
I came to Pittsburgh and left with a heart full of love.
And it's creeping into every experience. On the way home from Pittsburgh, the
rental car surprised me with a tire blow out on a winding mountain highway.
After securing the vehicle on the side of the road, I began making the typical
"Help, I'm stranded" calls, but with a calm that truly passed
understanding. A policeman stopped to offer help and kept my car safe until help
arrived. The tow truck driver was kind and gentle and got me back on the road.
I switched out cars in Altoona, and met a lovely man who owns both the rental
car company and the airport restaurant. He carried my bag and told me how glad
he was that I was safe and unharmed. Every interaction I've had over that past
few days has been infused with kindness and love, I see it everywhere because
it is everywhere.
I've always been someone who tried to love fiercely, unabashedly, fearlessly,
but in the last few years it has grown harder, Someone I loved hurt me so
deeply, that fear crept in. I still loved, but worry and anxiety were always
close at hand. I watched people use the God that I love as a battering ram and
I worried that it would change the nature of God, but the nature of God is Love
and love is stronger than we give it credit for.
This weekend I was reminded of the power of love to break down barriers, to
trample fear, to heal broken hearts and even to save us from our worst
selves--our most human, selfish, brittle, cruel, frightened, frailties. Love
has the power to change us and to change the lenses through which we see
ourselves and one another.
I am not a preacher. I am often filled with doubt. I am easily frustrated by
hurtful people and I sometimes swear multiple times in a single sentence. I am
incredibly, frustratingly human. I have no wisdom to offer, only love, lots and
lots of love.
❤